#ROW80 is A Round of Words in 80 Days. It’s a quarterly writing challenge where you define your personal goals and blog each week about your progress. It’s made to be flexible and allow for tweaking.
When this year started, my theme song was Feeling Good by Michael Buble. Because I’m kind, I’ll include it below.
Isn’t that a great video?
I really felt great about my year. I was heading toward a double-header release month in February, I was recovering from my surgery, I hadn’t gained a pound during the holidays and I was starting to change some things about my life I was really unhappy with.
2012 for me was all about getting my head down, writing as much as I could and getting books written. I did that to the exclusion of a social life, dating, and anything that didn’t really relate to my books or writing. It was a lonely way to go, but the benefits were tangible. I knew that in 2013 I was going to have to pull back on my productivity and get a social life. I have to have friends, do things and get out. It’s just a need, not a want, and my social tank was on E.
It seems that as soon as it rolled over to 2013 my train jumped to the social track and all I did was hang out with people, go out and ignore my writing. I was nearly fully recovered from surgery and I wanted to get out. I fell off my diet wagon and for the life of me I couldn’t get anything done. It’s no secret that I’ve struggled for the last three months to really find something that works for me between the day job, having friends and writing. The answer came in an unexpected package, but I’m glad it landed in my lap!
Last month I started working from home and I’ve found the schedule that works for me. Balance is a tricky thing. There’s nothing that will directly even out, you have to fiddle with it, put 5 pounds on one side, and a 2 and 3 pounder on the other. It’s that combination, that works. What works for me won’t work for anyone else so it’s not like I can sit here and give you sage advice on how to make it work for you, I can only tell you what worked for me.
Balance has helped me in other ways, not just with writing. I’m balancing the time I spend on-line by unplugging some. I’m looking at my friends and instead of just seeing them when I see them, I’m planning to get with them specifically. The trick is that the writing and day job stuff must be finished first. That’s one little rule that I have to watch and not skimp on.
I’m really happy with the progress and work flow I’ve developed the last few weeks. Here’s hoping I sing the same song next week!
How do you manage to balance writing, family, friends and work?